The True Nature of Love

The true nature of love is that it’s not about receiving it from another—

it’s about giving the felt experience of love to yourself.

The gift of love, or falling in love, is so often tied to an external need:

I want you to love me. I need you to love me the way I want you to.

We extract love from others.

But when we fall in love, we are falling into our own capacity to love.

You—

you become a catalyst, a mirror, a presence that helps me access what was already within me.

You help create the conditions where my love can bloom,

but you are not the source.

This shifts love from transaction—I need you to fill my emptiness—

to offering: I choose to share this fullness and joy with you.

If you choose to share this too,

then love becomes freedom living inside vulnerability.

Freedom, because I no longer hold my well-being hostage to your actions.

Vulnerability, because I’m offering my most precious gift without guarantees.

My love is the felt sense that awakens in me when I’m with you—

that is the whole gift.

I choose to spend my time with you,

to value our space,

to be as present as I can—

because the gift is that I can feel my love dance within me when I’m around you.

And you don’t need to perform or prove anything—

only to feel your own love dancing too.

And if you no longer feel that gift within you when you’re with me,

I will be sad.

I will grieve having to miss that experience.

But it’s okay.

I know that love lives within me,

and it can’t be taken away by anyone.

This is the true nature of love—

it remains alive in my heart.

Even my sadness, when I can no longer share my love with you,

will stay rooted in my wholeness.

My emotions will be safe within me.

Just like my love, I will hold them,

care for them,

and not abandon or ignore them.

They will be safe with me.

Because my love doesn’t depend on anyone—

only on my relationship

and connection

with myself.